Have you ever had one of those bug zappers that attracts bugs but as soon as they fly in, ZAP! They’re toast.
As a child, I always cringed whenever heard that zap. I remember telling my brother in law when I was fourteen that I felt sorry for all of the bugs. He replied, “It’s their own fault! If they were smart, they wouldn’t fly toward the light especially after seeing all of the other bugs getting zapped.”
It made me think of today’s “man-eaters.” They manipulate men for personal gain by mastering the art of seduction. They are women that lure men in with their beauty, charm and femininity for the purpose of getting what they desire whether it be money, status, material possessions, affection or to recover from a break-up. As soon as the man fulfills her self centered desire, just like the bug-zapper, ZAP!!! He’s toast and she moves on to the next victim. The men are often warned by others but the gravitational pull that feeds on their desire is too strong.
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The bible has many examples of these wayward women. Deliliah, Jezebel, and Potiphars Wife.
So is it the bug’s fault or the zapper’s fault? Is it homicide or suicide? That is the magical question. But instead of pointing the blame, it’s more productive to be proactive versus reactive. Finger pointing and the blame game solves absolutely nothing. Both can be prevented by taking a few precautions.
Don’t be a fool by wining and dining fool’s gold. Never allow the fluorescent light of a beautiful woman’s appearance fool you. On the surface she may appear like glitter and gold but underneath sparkling surface is just a rock.
• First off. What are you advertising? Are you flaunting all of your money, cars, and house? You attract what you advertise. Don’t expect to flaunt money and not attract gold-diggers.
• Check out her character and demeanor. What are her character traits? What does she value?
• Listen to her. If you let someone talk enough, they will tell you who they are.
• How does she respond to trials and tribulations? Anyone can smile in the sun but as New Edition says, “Can she stand the Rain?”
• How does she treat others? From the waitress at the restaurant to the homelss on the side of the road. How she treats others is a reflection of what lies on the heart.
• Is she a good steward? How does she spend her time, talent and treasure?
• What is her purpose in life, her mission statement? This simple question will tell you a lot.
Don’t allow past heartbreaks and relationships turn you bitter so then you become a man-basher with a mission for revenge against anyone who carries the Y Chromosome. Bitterness only hurts the bitter. Hate only hates the hater.
• Look within to find value in yourself and realize no man can fill a void. Only God can.
• Find balance in life. It’s fine to go to the beauty and nail salon, go shopping for nice clothes and work out at the gym but when your surface is the primary focus of your development, you will be in for a wide awakening when age starts catching up with you. You will look in the mirror to see wrinkles and realize that you were only fooling yourself.
• Learn the definition of “stewardship.” Stewardship is the understanding that everything given to you is a gift so you treat it as such. You make the most of your time, talent and treasure by paying it forward.
• The cycle of relationships is giving and receiving. When they are off balance, you are either the pair of muddy boots or the door-mat. Nobody likes be walked on…but woe to the person who stomps on others.
Whether a man-eater or the man that has been eaten, suicide or homicide, both can be prevented by looking deeper than just the surface of the flesh!
“With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk. All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life. Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths. Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death.” Proverbs 7:21-27
Copyright © 2011 by Katrina Smith
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